Reflections on Family
What constitutes a family? Particularly an extended family. Beyond your parents, and siblings, what about the rest. If you parents are your link to the extended family, and they die, does your extension to their family die with them.
How do you even know that you will still be welcome in that family. Particularly, as in my case, if the ties to that family weren't quiet strong to begin with, wouldn't those ties just snap?
You have a pair of grandparents (the patriarchs), their children, and then the grandchildren. What place do the grandchild have without the link of their parents. Shall I look forward to a series of family functions where I sit alone while all my cousins sit with their parents? Or will they just forget to invite me all together since grandchildren are usually invited by their parents.
Will even seeing me at events only serve to remind them of the daughter they lost? Will simply seeing my face, a combination of their daughter and her previous significant other whom they deeply despised, bring them memories of the years they lost while she had been outcast from the family for getting involved with the man they despised.
Perhaps it's best now to consider myself an orphan, in the true sense of the word. Almost 30 years old, yes, but without family none the less. Of course, I still have my loving husband, and my sister, whom I love dearly.
How do you even know that you will still be welcome in that family. Particularly, as in my case, if the ties to that family weren't quiet strong to begin with, wouldn't those ties just snap?
You have a pair of grandparents (the patriarchs), their children, and then the grandchildren. What place do the grandchild have without the link of their parents. Shall I look forward to a series of family functions where I sit alone while all my cousins sit with their parents? Or will they just forget to invite me all together since grandchildren are usually invited by their parents.
Will even seeing me at events only serve to remind them of the daughter they lost? Will simply seeing my face, a combination of their daughter and her previous significant other whom they deeply despised, bring them memories of the years they lost while she had been outcast from the family for getting involved with the man they despised.
Perhaps it's best now to consider myself an orphan, in the true sense of the word. Almost 30 years old, yes, but without family none the less. Of course, I still have my loving husband, and my sister, whom I love dearly.
posted by layne @ 12:04 AM
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